Psychology Blog

I have been hit by stumbleupon over the weekend. I am thankful for all the visit and comments that stumblers brought to Psychology Blog.

The post which was visited by a couple of thousands was Your Charm Does Not Depend On Your Body

I suggest you to read the comments section. I have the feeling that most people didn’t find that article fit for a psychology blog. I don’t totally agree with this however i can’t simply disagree either.

First, psychology is a broad concept. When I hear the phrase “psychology blog”, first web site I have in my mind is the Psy-Blog.  Especially the post “Top Ten Psychology Studies” is a typical post which people expect when they hear something like psychology.

On the other hand, my psychology blog is mostly about clinical psychology and then mostly about alternative tips and techniques in clinical psychology. Therefore it is quiet natural that most people will not see fit that this blog has such a title.

Having said that, I am thinking of a solution on this. One solution might be to freeze this blog as it is now and go for another domain and continue from there. I have several domains in my hand lik this one (hayatkisa.com) on which I can make use of meaningful subdomains. Well this isn’t a big problem anyway because there are hundreds of millions of web sites out there and people remembering a web site with its unique domain name is a little bit history. I’ts valid for a handful of big web sites only.

I believe that starting anew with over one year experience in blogging would do better for me and for my visitors. Please comment about this. I am not going to delete this blog or any single post in it, nor will I move the posts elsewhere.  I will just setup a new blog that has a better title with a deeper meaning than Psychology Blog.

What do you think?

They have both contributed to contemporary psychotherapy without knowing.

There two major concepts in contemporary psychotherapy: “here and now” and self-responsibility. Being responsible of each and every event, good or bed, is a notion that psychotherapists would like their patients to gain. If you are robbed, that is your responsibility. You had to know that that street was not safe. You had to know that in that time of day, this area is not secure. You had to know that carrying that much money / valuables by you is not a good practice. Irvin Yalom puts out that if Sartre was living today he would say that the Iraqi invasion and hunger in Africa are your responsibilities because you could do something to prevent them both.

Psychologists today are no different than Sartre in that sense. Many books on psychotherapy talk about how you are responsible of a misbehaving parent, spouse, friend, society. This is not to advice to save the world. The idea is that you have the choice to avoid such situations. You are responsible for putting yourself into trouble or not. You choose what you will live and experience. You also choose how you feel about this and that.

This was the Sartre part. On the other hand, contemporary psychology is deeply affected bu Buddhist perspective. Here and now approach of solving daily problems or working on complexes that emerged from the past is highly similar to Buddhist teaching.

On any day you feel blue, both a zen master and a psychotherapist would say that this life, you have to live through your stress and anxiety. Thus you will solve it. Beyond that, they would also say that you should forget thinking about yesterday and worrying about tomorrow. Today, this moment is the most important to you.

Therefore, it would be accurate to say that contemporary psychotherapy relies really much on Sartre and Buddha.

Death is to be evaluated in two major ways in a dynamic therapy. First, its about one’s fear and concerns about his/her own death. Second, its about grief and emotional pain that emerges from a loss of a loved one.

Both of them are very much related to one’s anxiety about his/her own end.

In dynamic therapy, the notion of death, or consciousness thereof is a mean to open the individual’s path to activate his/her will to life.

Theory believes that the fact to know that someday you are going to die would help your therapeutic process. It’s true that for some people, it acts as a motivating force to know that he/she isn’t immortal. However, for some people its just like “if I am going to day anyway, why would I bother about my life”. So this awareness of death would help or not, it depends on the person.

To create this awareness, some techniques are used. Most of them are about dreaming of one’s own funeral, burial, etc. Writing of one’s own obituary is another method of initiating awareness about death.

Dream analysis and interpretation is also used in this process. Symbols such as seeing yourself wounded or your body modified is usually interpreted as referring to your fears of death.

Briefly, it may help if you realize that you are not going to live forever and every second of your life is worth living.